HOW TO STOP THINKING ABOUT SEX

Understand that there is nothing wrong
with thinking about sex . It's entirely natural,
and everyone does it. Biologically speaking, it is
next to impossible to stop thinking about sex
completely, as your body instinctively drives to
reproduce. However, it's possible for that urge to
become more like background noise as you go
through your everyday life.
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Know your triggers. Sex is not always the
topic that gets you thinking about sex.
Sometimes pure boredom with life begins an
automated response that looks for
entertainment, and eventually leads to thinking
about sex. There are a number of triggers. If you
can identify your triggers, you can limit their
capacity to veer you into thinking about sex.
Stress is a huge trigger for sex, and thinking
about sex.
3
Develop your willpower. If you truly want to
stop thinking about sex, you need to make a
commitment to yourself and stick with it. At a
minimum, you should make a goal to curb your
sexual thoughts so that they don't distract you
from your other daily activities, such as work or
school. If you need help remembering your
commitment, wear a piece of jewelry or a simple
string around your wrist that will remind you to
power through the temptation to get lost in
thought.
4
Sublimate your urges. Sublimation, or sexual
transmutation, occurs when you translate your
sex drive into creative energy. Take the time
you'd usually spend thinking about sex and
instead devote it to a creative hobby, such as
writing, painting, sculpting, or playing music. If
it's something you really enjoy, it can provide
you with an alternate avenue for catharsis and
satisfaction.
5
Distract yourself with other activities. If
you're not in a place where you can do a
creative hobby, try exercising. If you're working
out hard enough, you shouldn't be able to focus
on much of anything. Alternatively, get lost in
an engrossing book or movie, or take up a team
sport. While outside activities are probably not
going to get thoughts about sex completely off
your mind, it will help to facilitate other
thoughts outside of sex.
6
Don't leave too much idle time in your
schedule . Everyone needs time to relax, but
finding yourself with hours of time on your
hands might lead to backsliding. Schedule your
day full with events and activities to better
yourself. Leave a bit of time at the end of the
day for reflection and relaxation, but not so
much that you'll get bored.
7
Tell someone about your problem. As
terrifying as this may sound, it is one of the
most powerful and effective approaches. If you
are lucky enough to know someone who is not
judgmental and will understand and appreciate
your goal (and forgive you, if the circumstances
warrant), talk to them at least once a day about
how you are doing. Have a frank conversation
any time you feel compelled to think or act in
ways you would rather not. It is surprising how
much less compelling these thoughts appear
when brought into the light of day, and how
much less powerful.
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If all else fails, try to think of something
decidedly unsexy . Car horns, the smell of
grandmas, tofu, nails on a chalkboard -
whatever it is that completely turns you off,
dredge up that image if you need to stop
thinking about sex suddenly. It should be the
mental equivalent of taking a cold shower.
Don't rely on this technique too often, as it's
not a long-term solution. Use it only for
situations in which you need to stop thinking
about sex immediately.
Tips
Don't frustrate yourself over sexual thoughts.
Remember that everyone else thinks about sex,
too. What matters is that you can still go on with
your daily life without letting something as silly
as sex bother you.
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